Now that my son is older we have explained to our son… You obey to stay safe.
We show him over and over again that our rules and instructions keep him safe, help him to learn so he can excel at things and find peace in the circumstances he is facing.
We show him over and over that the obedience is not because we want to manipulate or control him. We also explain that we are his parents and we love him and since he knows we love him he can trust us to obey him.
What I do not want to happen is my son to think he is obligated to obey anybody because we know there can be ill intentions. Obedience is not easy… a lot of times there are things he doesn’t want to do but we will never make him unsafe and he knows that. We also talk about tricky people and how we have to observe people based on their actions but that is for another post.